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Well it's my first entry of my adoption blog.
Why write an adoption blog you ask? Simple. It's a way of
logging everything that happens, dates/times that I have contacted
people or sent things in the mail. It's also going to be a place
for me to vent my feelings, frustrations and advances. I also
want it so on the slight, off chance that I do in fact find my birth
mother and relatives, they can go here and read through everything.
The story thus far:
I've been up and down on wanting to actually search for my birth
family. I think it's fear that's holding me back. I have a
deep fear of the unknown. I guess I'm also a little scared that
if I do in fact find my birth family, that they won't want to know
me. I don't know if I have half siblings... although it's a
pretty safe assumption that I do. Do they know about me?
Will they know about me?
What I know about myself:
My birth mother (so I've been told) wanted to try and keep me.
She struggled with being able to care for me, and wanting a better
life. She had me christened in a beautiful gown at an Anglican
church. Her and my father were in an immature relationship.
It's sketchy about his role in all of this. I don't know much
about him at all to be honest. Even less than I know about
her. I know she was a hairstylist, not sure what he
was. I finally became a Ward of the Crown around 21 months of
age. I only spoke a few words, mainly them being french. I
was adopted not long after. I think my birth mother requested
pictures of me after my adoption.
I think I may have found her.
I registered on adoption.com, and added my profile to their reunion
registry. After fiddling around with the site, I did a search on
my birthdate. A list of names appeared. There was one with
a woman from Ottawa as well. As I read through her profile, the
similarities were amazing.
My name at birth was Jamie Lee Ann. She was looking for a little
girl, born on the same day, with the same name, and the same city and
same eye/hair colour. The fact that she was looking for hair/eye
colour stuck out. If she had given the baby up right away, how
would she have known what colour the eyes stayed? Or if the hair
lightened?
I'm convinced it's her. Now it's just trying to find her.
I tried calling the number that was provided, however it was
disconnected. Her profile was posted back in 1999, so I was kinda
aware of the fact that it could have been changed. I wanted to
try and do a reverse address search, but the addy that was listed was a
PO box. I could try and send a letter, but I don't know if she
still has it or not, and I'd rather not pour my heart out into a
letter, only for some weirdo to read it. Then again... I do it
all the time on my xangas. But, that doesn't have a return
address on it. 
After posting about it on the forums at adoption.com, I was
directed to email Val from Parent Finders. So I did. I
recieved an email today asking for more information, like my address,
date of birth, name at birth... etc. After emailing it all out I
was struck by the notion that this would be a great way to do identity
theft. Prey on unsuspecting people trying to find their birth
parents. Luckily I know that Parentfinders is a legitimate site,
but it's something to think about.
I mailed out my request for Non-Disclosure information today, as well
as my application to be named in the Adoption Disclosure
Registry. I think I did that when I turned 18 (legal age to
search for birth relatives) but I'm not 100% sure, so I decided to do
it again. I can't wait to get the non-disclosure
information. I had it when I was 16, but I've since lost it and I
don't remember much about it. When I recieve it, I'll post more
about it.
Tah!
So that's my story... for now. I'll update more as I feel like it, or as things happen of signifigance.
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